Kansas couple who lost their baby in Tulsa car accident speak out

COFFEYVILLE, Kan. — Parents Mariana Jabben and Jonathan Bilby are talking about their grief after a Tulsa woman caused a car accident that killed their baby and drastically altered their lives.

Tulsa Police arrested 23-year-old Sadie White for first degree manslaughter. They say she was driving 73 mph in a 40 mph zone and caused the crashed that killed the couple’s baby Allison, who died after being delivered by an emergency C-Section.

Jabben and Bilby drove 75 miles from their home in Coffeyville, Kan. to Tulsa each day to deliver for DoorDash. They were on their way home from working that night when White crashed into their vehicle.

The crashed happened near Lewis Ave and E 36th St in April.

Bilby recalled to FOX23 that he tried to maneuver his car to take the impact of the crash. He was trying to protect his fiancé and their unborn baby Allison.

Jabben underwent three surgeries following the crash — one to deliver baby Allison and two more on her shattered hand and broken arm.

Bilby describes what happened when they arrived at the hospital.

“I could hear her screaming in pain, and all I could do was just lay there and hear it. It was just heart-wrenching,” Bilby said. “And I couldn’t comfort her.”

Jabben had a surprising response to the news of White’s arrest: compassion.

“Because I’m a Christian, and I feel for her, and I know people make mistakes,” Jabben said. “And it’s like I’m at war with myself because I feel so much compassion for her. Like I don’t want to hold her accountable, but at the same time, I want someone to be accountable for losing my baby.”

Bilby recalls the one hour Allison lived after she was delivered.

“Whenever I held her, I was just so much in pain,” he said. “I just hoped, and I was praying, just wishing a miracle would happen. That she would just [breathe] on her own.”

Bilby is suffering from the weight of guilt. He described the moments he said goodbye to Allison.

“I said, ‘I’m sorry that I didn’t protect you, that I’m sorry that I failed you. I’ll miss you, and I’ll always love you, no matter what,’” he said.

The couple set up a GoFundMe page to cover their expenses and help them through this difficult time.

White has a court hearing coming up Sept. 1, 2022.

In another twist of fate, the couple was in the same waiting room at Saint Francis’ Natalie Medical Building at the time the shooter was reportedly there on June 1. They missed the shooting by an hour.