Putting A Stop To Bullying


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Updated: 4/27/2010 4:37 pm Published: 4/26/2010 10:23 am


Tulsa, OK- A bullying forum is set for Tuesday, April 26th at Byrd Middle School.

This is the same school that had to have stepped-up security earlier this month because of a possible gang fight.

"It's sad. It's really sad," said Latrisha White, who knew something was going on with her 13 year old granddaughter, Erica, when her behavior suddenly changed overnight. "She would come home from school and all she would do was just sleep."

Erica used to go to Whitney Middle School, but the bullying got so bad she had to move to another part of the state, leaving her grandmother wondering why this had gotten so out of control.

"It really makes me sad because I really hate to see her going through what she was going through," said White.

This week, Byrd Middle School is bringing the issue of bullying to the forefront with the help of community outreach group Operation Aware.

According to the organization, of the victims who report bullying, 51% tell their friends, 34% tell their mom or dad, and 15% tell a teacher. Of the victims who tell, only 19% believe the bullying gets better after they tell someone.

"This can lead to mental stress, anguish, students feeling left out, students feeling confused and sometimes students even harming themselves," said Mackenzie Staples, Manager of Curriculum & Instruction for Operation Aware.

Even if victims don't harm themselves physically, leftover emotional scars can perpetuate the problem.

"They internalize that and we often see where the student who's being bullied will lash out and become a bully themselves," said Staples.

To determine if your child is acting as a bully, look for shows of aggression, like vandalism.

If the child is the victim of a bully he or she might be particularly anxious or have slipping grades.

For more on ways to spot if your child's being bullied or if your child is the bully: http://www.stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov/kids/

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deb10608 - 4/29/2010 3:50 PM
My grandaughter has been bullied in the owasso schools for several years. this year again she has been at home doing school work because they could not find away too keep her safe. Last year she stayed at home most of the year also. She is listed as being at school and they have us pick up her work and bring it back the next week. She has not done her math in a month because she does not know how and they will not send a teacher to help her. Yesterday my grandaughter tried to talk to the councelor about her problems and her response was there would always be bulling and she should just go to alternative. I think its a cop out. last year she was spit on every day....gum in her hair that took them several hours to get out. bottles thrown at her at the football games. At first they wanted to say it was her fault but after investigating found out she did nothing to get this done to her. The vice principle said it was the worse case of bulling she ever saw.Whats bad is this she got a hate letter in her locker telling her to go home and kill herself so they did not half to do it for her. The school told us the cameras were not working that day so they had no way of knowing who it was. They told us at the school in the begining they would have assembley and let her speak her mind to the kids. Now she is strong enough to do that and they telling us if they will allow it.I know now why kids kill themselfes. I blame the schools. I don't care unless it the teachers getting bullied. Last year when the teacher here was threatened by a student she was kicked out of school. Our child was at home and the child who hit her was in detention at school.They said her family was rough so the left her at school. when a child gets to the point of hurting herself because of school we need to get to the problem.......the department who is suppose to of been notified about the bulling in owasso was never told. we need to hold our schools responsible for what goes on in school

papdadi - 4/27/2010 11:49 AM
How about instead of blaming the bullies, we teach our kids to stand up to bullies. Taekwondo or Kempo works just fine last time I checked. I always thought it was funny when the bullies picked on the wrong kid in school and ended up getting something broke like there nose or arm.Bullying is wrong, but there's always going to be bullies, thats just how it is. I tell my kids that they never start fights, just finish them.

Andrewtrek - 4/26/2010 9:57 PM
Bullying is a gate way for crime to both the Bully and the Victim. I believe that there needs to be more "Get off the streets" campaigns. A bully might join a gang to because he/she thinks its the tough thing to do, while the victim might join a gang looking for protection. Either way, we do not want any of these people in any gangs. It will just lead to an increase in crime.

slimjim - 4/26/2010 11:41 AM
There is no room for bullying in any school. There should be absolutely no tolerance for that kind of behavior. You bully someone, you are expelled for the semester, plain and simple.
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