Father worries his child's school failed to follow rules

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Updated: 1/15/2013 9:27 am Published: 1/14/2013 6:21 pm

A Claremore father and his girlfriend take care of two young girls and they are upset with the girls’ school for failing to make sure the girlfriend was a “safe” person for the girls to go home with after school. 

On Wednesday, Jason Stiles was feeling sick and so was his youngest daughter, 5-year-old Jaden.  His older daughter, 7-year-old Destiny, needed to be picked up from Claremont Elementary school.  Stiles' girlfriend, Theresa Crow, is as close as a mother to the girls.  Stiles and Crow have been dating for two years. 

Crow went to pick up Destiny after school at 3:00 p.m.  She has never picked the girls up without Jason with her.  Jason is listed on the school’s “after school pick-up” list as a legal guardian to go home with, Crow is not.  But Crow went anyway, knowing Jason was too sick to go.  

She drove up in her green minivan wrote “Stiles” on a white envelope for the administrators who were standing with dozens of children outside.  The administrators saw the sign “Stiles” and sent Destiny to the car.  That’s when Theresa realized no one questioned her.

“I wrote the last name down on an envelope and held it up and they looked at it and were like, oh the Stiles girls, and pointed her to my vehicle. I am like really?” explained Crow.  “And my daughter goes, ‘Did Daddy put you on the list to pick me up?’”

Crow was surprised that her 7-year-old knew she needed to be IDd. 

“There is not enough security,” said Crow.  “With everything that has happened here lately at Sandy Hook--I just don’t want that to happen here.”  

The next day Stiles and Crow walked into the office at the girls’ elementary school to put Crow’s name on the list and ran into the same problem.   

“We walked in together and I said ‘I need to add my girlfriend to my daughters’ pick-up list,’” said Stiles.  “They asked what is the kids’ last name, I said Stiles, they pull it up, oh Destiny and Jaden, yeah, well what’s her (Crow’s) name.  Teresa handed the woman her driver’s license, she wrote down the info, and that was it.  They never asked who I was or for my ID--nothing.”

FOX23 talked with the superintendent, Michael McClaren.  McClaren has been working for Claremore Public Schools for 13 years.  He assures the school has a policy of identifying anyone the administrators do not recognize. 

“I know this is an assumption, but I trust the teachers or administrators who were out here recognized Theresa from maybe other visits with the girls’ father to pick them up, and that is why they saw her and sent the daughter home with her,” said McClaren. 

McClaren insists the students’ safety is a number one priority at every Claremore school .  They have even held children back from going home with people or vehicles the administrators did not recognize. 

What about when the father and Teresa went inside and put Teresa’s name on the pick up list?” asked FOX23 News to Superintendent McClaren.  “Why did the receptionist inside did not ask who he was?”

“They must have recognized him as the Stiles girls’ father,” said McClaren.  “We ID only when we do not recognize someone. We even have a picture ID system where we can take your ID and scan it and find out who you are immediately and we use that on a daily basis.” 

While Stiles and Crow still feel safe allowing their girls to attend Claremont Elementary School, they would feel better if everyone, including all friendly faces, were ID'd whenever they enter the school or whenever they pick up their child.  They would be the first to just pull their IDs out of their wallets and show them right away.

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GBains - 1/15/2013 9:48 PM
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The principal of the school stands outside everyday, even during freezing weather to greet the students. He was out of school that last couple of days with the flu and I saw him back at school today standing outside in 10 degree weather. Mr. Young is a fantastic principal.

Mayor Maynot - 1/15/2013 3:22 PM
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If you answered that question "because you a sick then you have found the person who is at blame."

Mayor Maynot - 1/15/2013 3:20 PM
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Did they tell you what the rules were?? Why did you break the rules??

Mayor Maynot - 1/15/2013 3:18 PM
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Father knows best: And I'm telling you son if it's that important sick or well get your worthless hide up out of bed. We've noticed that you havnt gasped yet. You can ride along well enough to provide all your needs and wants to protect your children. Unless your just a crybaby milktoast wet behind the ears calf GET UP and handle your business like a man.

antjp - 1/15/2013 6:20 AM
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Please don't waste my time with "news" like this. The people in this video are just looking for 10 minutes of fame and you are a tabloid news station at best.

kidsceo - 1/14/2013 11:57 PM
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They interviewed the principal and secretary, but you didn't see those interviews either. They should interview some other parents to see if this REALLY is an issue. Fox, you really need to do a follow up story and interview some other parents to get a more complete story instead of this one sided interview.

kat1der1 - 1/14/2013 10:54 PM
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My child goes to Claremont also and I have seen them ID people In the line when they are not familiar with them and they are picking up kids. This interview is so one sided and biased they did not talk to any other parents except for those two wonder why.

kidsceo - 1/14/2013 9:49 PM
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I agree! The interview was very one sided! My kids also go to Claremont. The staff their is awesome! They love these kids! The woman in the interview said she was their with the father to get their kids everyday. Of course the teachers will recognize her. The school just implemented a new procedure to better protect our kids, but of course there is nothing mentioned about that! Shame on these parents for trying to find their 2 minutes of fame! What an embarrassment to our community!

rolyatbor - 1/14/2013 9:01 PM
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Furthermore, the staff and administration at our school does a wonderful job. They care so much for our kids. It's sad that any Joe Schmoe can call a news station, somehow find a way on TV, and taint the job that these wonderful people do. Once more, it's disgusting that someone would play on people's emotions after the tragedy last month to get their 2 minutes of fame.

rolyatbor - 1/14/2013 8:39 PM
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Thank you to these 2 upstanding individuals and to Fox 23 for wasting everyone's time with this ridiculous story. This is a classic example of a couple of people looking for a few minutes of fame, and tabloid local news giving it to them. This lady is in the car to pick up those kids practically every day when I am there picking up my kids. I don't know their names, but I recognized them as soon as I saw them. Guess what? Teachers have brains too. They recognized this lady as the person who picks them up every day. Give me a break. Fox 23, you should be ashamed for running such a story just to stir trouble. Be a news station not a tabloid.
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